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No Longer Invisi(BI)le: 10 Bisexual Women of Color to Celebrate

Where are the Bi Women of Color in Black and Women’s History?

We grit our teeth during Black History month, when major media sources highlighted the same (albeit inspirational) black men, excluding women. But it seems we’re not getting a break during women’s history month either, which is currently being dominated by stories of white, straight women’s push for gender equality. So, can LGBT-friendly media do better?

When it comes to highlighting LGBT heroes during both black history month and women’s history month, it seems mainstream queer media goes to bat for for the (white) L,G, and even nowadays the T. But even lists that feature queer women of color, such as this great post from Femme on a Mission, only have a few bisexuals or worse, none at all.

Well here’s what we all agree here at QWOC Media Wire: Ignoring bisexual women of color for women’s history month isn’t going to cut it.

Before I ventured into writing this post I figured bisexual identity was simply something that larger Gay and Lesbian organizations and communities tolerated, or outright condemned. QWOC Media Wire touched on this in our post Bro’s Before Ho’s but we only just scratched the surface because there’s just SO much more to talk about. With all the lack of visibility of bisexual people and activism you’d think there isn’t much going on at all. But you’d be wrong–there are plenty of amazing bisexual women of color not only talking about bisexuality but also spearheading bisexual activism! So we’re profiling the hidden B in LGBTQ and singing the praises of these unsung (s)heros. Enjoy.

(via thesunnysideofbeingbi)

Source : qwocmediawire
Source : lgbtqismorethanpolitics
afterellen:


I am a happily married woman and I married a man. I don’t think that negates that aspect of my life, but obviously I wouldn’t be with my husband if I didn’t want to be married to a man. Some people find it odd that you can identify with a sexual orientation that is not straight and yet be married to someone of the opposite sex. They’re like, “Obviously it’s not real if you’re married to a dude.” I’m like, “Okay, if that’s how you feel, there’s nothing I can do about it.” I’m just living my life. It’s just part of who I am.

Anna Paquin is everything.

afterellen:

I am a happily married woman and I married a man. I don’t think that negates that aspect of my life, but obviously I wouldn’t be with my husband if I didn’t want to be married to a man. Some people find it odd that you can identify with a sexual orientation that is not straight and yet be married to someone of the opposite sex. They’re like, “Obviously it’s not real if you’re married to a dude.” I’m like, “Okay, if that’s how you feel, there’s nothing I can do about it.” I’m just living my life. It’s just part of who I am.

Anna Paquin is everything.

(via bisexualmind)

Source : afterellen
It is often proposed that bisexuals should deal with issues concerning same-sex relationships and express same-sex attractions within gay and lesbian environments, and deal with issues concerning other-sex relationships and express other-sex attractions within heterosexual environments. Yet many bisexuals do not see their sexuality as “half gay and half straight” and cannot neatly divide themselves this way. They do not want to always have to hide part of who they are according to context. True inclusion of bisexuals requires the acceptance and validation of both our same-sex and our other-sex attractions and relationships, for that is what bisexuality is.
Liz A. Highleyman - Identity and Ideas: Strategies for Bisexuals (from Bisexual Politics)

(via bisexualmind)

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Books & Babes: Out & Proud As A Bisexual: Why I think it's important. →

bisexualintellectual:

  • Because bisexuality is assumed to be a experimental or intermediate phase rather than an orientation in and of itself
  • Because people think that the next person you date determines your sexuality for the rest of your life, that it means you finally “made a decision”
  • Because people assume that bisexuality is purely sexual and that you can’t actually be romantically attracted to more than one gender
  • Because people assume that bisexuality excludes non-binary genders. It doesn’t.
  • Because bisexual people often have to choose to blend in to heteronormative society—to pass.

(via bisexualmind)

Source : bisexualintellectual
Heterosexuality needs homosexuality, to be reassured that it is different. It also needs the illusion of dichotomy between the orientations to maintain the idea of a fence, a fence that has a right (normal, good) and a wrong (abnormal, evil) side to be on, or fall from. To the extent that we collaborate in seeing homosexuality as an opposite polarity (not part of a diverse range of human sexuality), we perpetuate this unhealthy, unrealistic, hierarchical dichotomy.
Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out, p. xxii (via bisexualmind)
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Source : allsortsyouth.org.uk

Bisexuality and straight privilege

Bisexuals are not trying to ride the straight privilege train. They are not holding onto the bi label because it is easier. Identifying as bisexual is just as difficult, if not more so in some circumstances, as identifying as gay or lesbian. Even if they do “pass” as heterosexual, bisexuals then have to deal with the conflict of internalizing their true selves.